DEAR ABBY: I have recently been contacted by Child Protective Services in another state regarding a great-nephew I knew nothing about. Of course, they were hoping for placement or financial support for the boy, who is 10. I am 62. I am not in a position to care for him, physically or financially.

The boy is my brother's grandson. When my brother and his wife divorced, she took the children and disappeared. I have had no contact or information regarding my niece and nephew for 35 years. Now there is this child in need. Would it be a good idea to ask if I could write to this child? I would be able to send birthday, Christmas presents and letters, but giving him full-time care isn't possible. -- CONFUSED GREAT-AUNT

DEAR GREAT-AUNT: There is so much detail left out of your letter. Where are this boy's father and mother? Are they incarcerated or dead? Where is your brother, the child's grandfather? Whether to initiate contact with this newly discovered relative and send him cards and gifts might depend upon the kind of living situation he winds up in.

Also, are you absolutely certain the person who contacted you is really from Child Protective Services, because it might be a scam. Do nothing until you have spoken to other family members and ascertain the veracity of the information you received.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.